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Danna Davis

My 6 year old son has been attending Ninja class at 4GK since August 2018. He loves it and I do too! He loves the skills and games and I love the discipline he is learning. I’ve spoken with a child-behavior doc about what he gets to do in class and the doc was *thrilled*. It’s clear that he believes in the philosophies Sifu and Miss Heidi teach about the importance of play and physical activity for children for all aspects of their development.

Jen Robinson

I took a kickboxing class and it was amazing. I was so pumped and ready to take on the day. Everyone was super nice and the routine was so much fun I would definitely recommend and be back for more!!!

Laura Miller - Owner, Little People's Center reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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Had the pleasure of visiting Heidi at 4GK Martial Arts and observing both her EARLY SKILLZ for children ages 3-4 and MOMMY AND ME class for children 18 months and up. The children are guided through the basics of martial arts with hands on gross motor activities set at their own individual pace. It was a pleasure to see.

Di Trudden reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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My daughter completed her first group class tonight and I could not be a prouder or happier mama right now! Heidi Burmann and Raquel made Lily feel welcome and were so patient with her as she was learning the kicks and routines. I am so happy that we discovered a healthy and fun new hobby for Lily! If you are looking for an affordable place where your little one can learn and grow then 4GK is for you!

Everyone knows I have been on my own little health journey creating Our Mommy Movement and finding new ways to exercise. I signed up for kick boxing classes through 4GK and am really excited to try them out! Seeing how patient and kind the staff was with Lily I don’t have to worry about being surrounded by people who will judge me while I try to keep up with the moves.

Tina Dos Reis reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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Great school and awesome team! Everyone is extremely friendly. My nephew Sebastian just loves his Extreme Skill class and after watching the team work together, I decided to try the kickboxing class. Frank put the entire class through a great workout! I can't wait to lose weight and build muscle. It's just the change I was looking for! Thank you 4GK!

Jennie D'Ambroise reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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Great school! Adult kung fu classes are approachable for all levels. You will learn a lot and you will work hard. Sifu and your fellow students will help you to improve and you will make great friends. Kickboxing classes will also kick your butt. Women, train here, you are welcome at all classes and the atmosphere is friendly and supportive.

Tommy Aliberti reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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This has always been a home away from home! Very much a family, and I have been part of this system for 18 years! Great values, hard work, and many lessons to be learned every time, which I have taken with me in the ring, and in everyday life! 5 Star recommendation!

Donnie Keegan reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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My daughter has been studying here for, two months shy of, three years. She still loves it! I my self have decided to join. Love the staff. they are constantly innovating and improving,both the structure of the school and its teachings. I can only hope to improve myself to the degree in which my daughter has been improved herself! Absolutely top notch school!

Rachel Ramsey Weir reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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We have had a great experience in the last year that our son has been attending 4GK. He has become more disciplined in his actions, his body has been strengthened and he knows the rewards of hard work. The dedication of the staff is evident in each class. It is clearly a labor of love!

Cheryl Anne reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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Fantastic staff !!!!!!!!!! Fantastic fun classes, they know you're name, they know how to make you work while you happily sweat toward a better you !

Katie Bacigalupo reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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LOVE the kick boxing class! It is such a great work out and fun at the same time! I always feel great afterwards and can't wait to get back to the next class!

Michelle McCann reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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Great atmosphere, awesome staff and incredible workout! Love it!!

Victoria Ingoglia reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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I absolutely love the atmosphere. It's clean, friendly n very challenging. I've given some awful dirty looks while stressed n I get high fives later. High intensity fire burning workouts keeps me motivated!!

Rebecca Manzella reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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4GK is excellent! I signed up my son for Basic Skillz just a few weeks after his 4th birthday. He loves coming to class to see his fellow ninjas and I really enjoy watching him learn new skills. In a short time, I had already noticed a behavior improvement while in a group setting and the two half hour classes a week are perfect for his attention span. Thank you Miss Heidi and the rest of the staff for your patience and influence on Neil.

Dawn-Marie Francois reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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The school is great!!! Classes are manageable and they push you to do your best. Staff is friendly and patient.

Frank Gil reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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I wanted to make a change in my life. I was stagnant, not active and unhappy honestly. One day my brother and friend convinced me to take a class at 4gk. That was years ago and thousands of punches and kicks ago and I love it every bit now as I did that first class. The instructors are amazing, knowledgeable, and were always willing to work with me at my level. I've spent a lot of time here and find no matter how my day has been I can't help but smile when I walk through the 4gk doors. It's a great environment for people who want to challange themselves and grow and there is no place else I'd rather be

Roseann Wander Walsh reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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I absolutely love it there. Everyone is very welcoming and make you feel very comfortable. I've done kickboxing at several other place and all the people there were very clicky I am very comfortable here and would recommend it to everyone.

Kimberly Lago reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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My oldest daughter has been coming here for a year. We fell in love immediately after seeing how wonderful the staff is with working with children of all ages. My second daughter was dying to be in a class also. As soon as she turned 3 we gave it a try and she has blossomed. Seemingly shy I was curious to see how her first class type activity would be. She loved it. Just waiting for daughter number three to be old enough because she is only two, but already feels like she belongs. We absolutely love it.

Shannon Marr reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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I love this place. Everyone is super friendly and makes you feel like a part of the family. I get constant encouragement to keep going. And when I had sprained my ankle and couldn't come for awhile, they worked with me financially and kept sending me encouraging messages to take it easy and get better. I get the best work outs and never any judgements.

Leianne Marques reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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4GK is an awesome school. The entire staff treats you like family. I take the kickboxing and skillz fit classes. The encouragement and motivation you get from the instructors makes you feel like you can achieve your goals, do anything you want, even if your first instinct is to say no when they all you to do something. I accomplish something in every class and have learned to think yes I can instead of there is no way I can.... the instructors break things down so you can easily understand each move. Everyone is made to feel important and special in each class, no one is left out. I can't imagine going anywhere else.

Linda Cummings reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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We just started the mini skillz program a couple of months ago. I admit, after being in the free play, no rules music program for the entire spring, my 2 yr old granddaughter was starting to rebel against listening. The first day of class I was almost in tears after five minutes when I realized how bad her behavior had gotten without structure. I'm so glad I stuck it out though. The second class was a joy, with her listening intently and using her brain. Miss Heidi has the patience of a saint. She is also on top of age appropriate skills and stresses them at each class. We've learned taking turns, following direction, jumping, kicking and punching, and many, many other useful things. She loves going to her class twice a week and I truly love taking her. I wouldn't hesitate to recommend these wonderful people and this fantastic school to anyone.

Danielle Hulse Maloney reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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My two sons have been coming here since December 2016. They absolutely love it & have THRIVED since coming! The older one suffers from anxiety & general fear, he has since built up tremendous confidence & has learned to verbalize any issues he may be having. The younger one is a ball of energy that needed direction & a release, he has achieved focus & better listening skills. The staff is AMAZING! They are welcoming, accommodating & listen to any issues you have whether it be with them, the class or your children. I could go to any of them & speak with them about ANYTHING & feel very comfortable doing so. Si Fu teaches the class in a low-key, fun manner that has the children engaged AND having fun at the same time, it's not the typical militant style. We received a military discount since my husband is a former marine AND ... They run a monthly themed Parents Night Out that gives parents a break without their kids from 7:30-10:00! I am thrilled that we found them & highly suggest to anybody looking for a martial arts school to check them out!

Yaoska Fleming reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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Great team! My daughter loves the school. She has learned so much since she started a year ago. I am so happy I found this place. I am so grateful for Ms. Heidi, Sifu Mike and all the team. Their love and dedication is shown in every class. Good job!!

Neil Manzella reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
via Facebook

I highly recommend 4GK to anyone considering Martial Arts for their children or themselves. The staff has been doing an amazing job with my 4 year old son. He has a safe and fun outlet for some of his endless energy supply and the staff do a great job keeping all of the students involved, active, and engaged in the classes activities. My son loves it and looks forward to it every week!

Christina Annessa reviewed 4GK Martial Arts
5
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We just started a month ago and my kids are in love & can't get enough of it. Everyday they ask do they have class. Its great for all ages and I really like that they split them up. My daughter is 5 and is learning age appropriate skills while in the next class my 8 year is learning different things. The staff is super friendly and always accommodates our needs. I absolutely love the fun nights they do as well, the kids get to hang out & have fun while I get to relax a bit a home. Overall very satisfied with this program.

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4 Ways Martial Arts Classes Help Adults Make New Friends

There are a few ways that people find a martial arts school. Some drive by, some search for “martial arts near me” and start researching the schools in the area.

But a certain amount of people in the Patchogue area find 4GK Martial Arts when they were looking for something completely different.

A search as simple as “How can I meet new people?” can lead adults to activities, such as martial arts, that include social aspects while being surrounded by empowering people.

While self-defense training is not necessarily what one might think of when looking to meet new friends, classes usually do involve working with partners, sharing experiences, and even directly working on overcoming social challenges, whether it is the need for greater confidence or simply the fact that perhaps you are new to town and don’t know anyone from the area.

Let’s look at 4 ways that martial arts training can help build a stronger social network.

Confidence to Open Up

The number one fear among American adults is public speaking.  Yes, standing in front of a group of people and giving a presentation is worse than snakes, bugs, sharks, and even death!

For many, a similar sense of dread creeps in whenever we encounter even one new person.  What should I say?  What do they like?  What if they don’t like me? What if they like me TOO much?

In a martial arts class, we often work with partners, and when a student is new, they may not know many of the people in the class.  It can feel a bit intimidating.  However, because these partners are working on a similar cause, it provides a brief shared experience from which friendships can grow.

By partnering with another student to develop self-defense applications, it is also inherent that we put ourselves in a position of temporary vulnerability.

By sharing these moments, we begin to build trust between students, but more, we begin to become comfortable with opening up and being vulnerable.  Ironically, this vulnerability begins to build confidence.

Having survived that self-defense partnership, suddenly saying hello to the new person in the office isn’t quite so intimidating anymore.  Of course, knowing that you have the skills, knowledge, and mindset to conquer any obstacle is also helpful.

Opportunity to Interact

Whether you recently graduated, moved to the area for a job opportunity, or you simply need to join a healthier circle of friends, finding ways to meet new adults can be tough, no matter how confident you feel.

The modern adult has work responsibilities (often for multiple jobs), has a side hustle to make some extra money, maybe has kids with the myriad associated activities…. they are BUSY!

Walking into a martial arts school gives you instant access to people just like you, who are probably interested in some of the same things you are.  Their interests may include fitness and weight loss, building confidence, training to fight full-contact, or even for therapeutic rehabilitati0n.  But at the core, they are all there to do one thing: get better.

And because most martial arts training is done in a group environment, you are guaranteed to meet several other people from your local area who share at least one or two things in common with you.  In additi0n to some potentially life-changing martial arts training, you have also bought access to a great new group of friends.

Leveraging the Tribe

Friendships are important.  Not just because we need someone to laugh and cry with, but because life can be tough, and sometimes we need to get a helping hand.

If you are new to town and need someone to help carry those funky carpets out to the curb, you’ll need a friend.  If you’re changing your self-image by changing your crowd, you’ll need a friend to remind you why you wanted to change.  If you are having a tough day and need advice, you’ll need a friend.  If you have a success and need someone to celebrate with, you’ll need a friend.

Many martial arts schools don’t just have a group of people who wander in and out, they have a Tribe.  People who stick together and work toward common successes.

This can mean being able to find a cheap plumber in the middle of the night (Bob from class knows his way around the pipes), or it can mean having someone come give your car a jump (Kelly that you worked with last night always has jumper cables with her).

When you have a tribe to support you, things become easier.  You, too, have something to offer, and you will feel good about helping out Joe and Monique when they need it.

Slowly, those continued interactions become relationships.  And suddenly… POOF!  You have people you call your friends.

Take It Offline

As you can see, the martial arts school is a great place to meet new friends. But it doesn’t have to stop there!  Once you feel comfortable with your new tribe, it is time to take it offline.  You can continue the relationships outside of class, outside of the Facebook groups.

Recently, several of the adult members of 4GK Martial Arts took a hike up into the woods of Long Island.  We learned some neat things about bushcraft, but more importantly, we spent 3 hours learning about one another.

A group of friends from 4GK Martial Arts heading out for a hike together.

 

It is not uncommon for martial arts students to form a sort of family.  We invite one another to BBQs, go to special life events, and sometimes organize activities just for our tribe.  The cool part is that you will soon find that your dozen or so new friends from class each have a dozen or so friends and that those people are now available to you as well.

Need a Friend?

Martial arts training can be powerful.  It has saved people from physical attacks, helped people overcome restrictive mindsets, given people the courage to ask for raises or leave bad relationships, and given people a way to get fit and healthy.

But beyond the techniques, beyond the workout, there are the people.  There is the tribe that always takes care of its own.  There is a supportive and empowering family that always has room for one more member.

If this sounds like something you need in your life, click the button to schedule a visit.  You can try a class completely free, and if it is something that resonates with you, we can show you how to join the tribe.

 

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